I was on The Motherhood recently joined a circle called Boy Moms The MOB.
My post read intro to the group was “I am new here I am a boy mom. I have a girl but my 1st was a boy so I think of my self is a a boy mom, I only had a boy for 4 years, so my training was boy.”
Now I don’t know if girl mom’s realize this, but there is a difference between raising boys and raising girls at a early age. Boys are loud and active for the most part. I have 2 friends BMom has 2 boys a year apart and GMom has 2 girls a year apart. BMom and GMom get together for the occasional party.
One day GMom reiterated to BMom what her” husband” said about their previous get together “Wow BMom’s boys are so loud and move all the time. He was happy for the girls.” imply the burden of boys.
BMom shared this with me, knowing that I understood boys, we both shook our heads and giggled.
Young GMom’s, I have encountered think it is the boys lack of supervision or discipline. That more discipline is required.
I have been told directly “you need to discipline more so he behaves like little Suzy”.
But BMom know better it is a boy, that is how their sons are built. Boys are active, busy, and move all the time. Unless you have a boy, you do not really understand this. We are trained from day 1 that boys are busy and girls are “developed” (because girl moms point it out how much more well behaved and developed their daughter is… we all know girls develop faster than boys. So no need to point it out in polite conversation.) Even in the NICU, when I had my daughter the nurses told me don’t worry she is a girl, the girls always are the 1st to leave.
I recently heard a Gmom friend pass judgment on another boy but honestly, I was not sure my son would be any different given the circumstances and I said so. I am not saying you don’t need to supervise and chalk it up to “thats a boy”. You do need to supervise and discipline, but sometimes it is not enough because “they are boy”. In spite of themselves.
The more learn the less I can judge. When your kids are young, you think you know it all. The older they get the less you know and realize you knew nothing when they were young. Parenting is a journey and I am loving the ride.
I would love to hear your thoughts?
Are you boy or girl parent?
