I try to be a good Mom
I know I fall short
I try to be a good wife
I know I fall short
I try to be good in my faith
I know I fall short
Please give me Strength
Please give me Strength
Amen
Category Archives: LIfe
This is Sherry Aikens life and struggles.
Guinea Pig Death
The Guinea pig passed away this past weekend… a moment of silence for the pig
Graham the Guinea pig adopted at 3 died at 5 RIP 5/6/11
We lost Grahams “life pig” Smore this passed in November. Smore, he actually actually more dramatic in death looking all nasty legs sticking out, mouth open and stuff. Graham pass away quickly and in is little house, it looked like when he was sleeping ..
The next morning at 5:30 am, I made the decision not to tell the kids till after we got home from my sons swim meet. No need to get the kid up set. We we got home I told them.. no real tears.
My son said casual “that is sad .. but he was old for a pig.”
*(note we have lost 1 cat 2 dogs 1 pig) in the last 3 years.. so death is becoming part of life in regards to our animals
So today, I head over to the SPCA (animal shelter) to donate large guinea Pig cage. I load it in the truck. I walk in the shelter and ask if they take old cages. They say yes… this is where I lapsed in judgment. I turned and walked into the cat/small animal room. NOT A Wise Choice.
I am now the proud owner of…
Moose a 1 year old wired hair guinea pig
Frankie a 6 year old long haired guinea pig (yes, I did say 6 years old- he will be dead in a year)
The thing is my husband was holding Frankie. He calls me and tells me the pig has a huge boil on his back, major infection and it stinks. See the hair covered it when I got him and the shelter has a policy of not holding the animals prior to adoption . My husband now calls me the Maiden of Death to Animals.
Working at Home Hermit
I find the more I work at home the more.. I hate to leaving the house. I am not sure if this is happening to others, but there is something to be said for not going through the hassle. I have been home working for over 5 years (6 if you count the year I was off) on my superhero cape business . I find that I hate to food shopping and don’t want to spend money clothing shopping (since my husband lost his job last June so.) I tend to really try to be efficient leave the house multi task. 6 stops one trip because every time I leave that is 6 hours …gone POOF. Then I feel like it was a waste of a day and I did not accomplish much. So I guess I am a workaholic …which anyone who knows me says I am. I spend time out of the house for the kid, husband, church, and events.
Most of my friends have gone back to work, kids are in school, and everybody is busy including myself. So I don’t make time for lunches with friends, or shopping excursions (I was never a big shopper for myself). Most people would say I am a social person and out going but during the weekdays not so much.
So here I sit comfy in my chair shopping from my computer and talking on the phone and working. The thing is i don’t mind not one bit. I think I am comfortable and happy, and isn’t that the point.
I am becoming a work at home hermit, so are you in your shell like me?
No I do not speak for my other Half
My husbands opinions are not mine. After almost 18 years with my husband, I find that people think that we speak in one voice and think the same. Hello… we do not. I can’t control what he does or says. Also he does stuff that I do not agree with. We have different religious beliefs and outlooks… we always have. Maybe other women say things and the can speak for their spouse. But that is not the way it works in our house and never has. I can make him do anything and never will. I respect his right to have his own opinions, because I should and he does the same for me. I wish others would understand he has a voice and it is not mine. If you want him to do something ask him not me.
We are different and that is why we work.
Bra Fitting 101:What to expect while lifting the Boobs
I thought it was about time to go for my 1st bra fitting. No mater what you call them Bra, Bras, Brassier, Boobie holders, or over the shoulder boulder holders you have to wear a Bra. I’m approaching the big 4 0, to really start taking care of “the girls” and get fit for a proper bra. A few of my friends have asked me about the experience bra fitting, it is like I went to someplace mysterious.
I choose not to go to the bra large chain, because I am a plus size girl. I certainly have never known Victoria’s Secret or her bras. My body has changed after the birth of my children. I am not up for some prefect little body seeing my goodies in a changing room. I am not ashamed, just realistic. I love my womanly curves and time gives you an appreciation of all those curves.
- Fact the person who fits you for a bras gets up close and personal with “the girls”
So I went to a bra local place that has an older more mature lady. Who has an amazing rack because she has taken care of her breast over the years. By looking at her and know she has an engineering marvel under her clothes.
I walked in and am quickly ushered in the changing room. Where the lady takes out a tape measure and takes some measurements (without your shirt on).
Questions she will ask
- Have you had a bra fitting before?
- What bra cup size are you?
- What type of bra soft cup, padded, underwire, color?
Then she comes back with a few bras. At this point you are without a bra and she helps you in it. Note: there is no hooking of the eyelets in front and twisting the bra to the back like you do at home. (so be prepared she will latch the bra for you.) Then you both look in the mirror to see how the bra fits. She might also recommend a different bra cup size and changing manufactures. Showing you why it is a bad choice.
I tried on about 10+ different bras. In the end realizing that I am a smaller size then I thought (who knew?) I thought I was always a C, educated on boob lifting I am a B. Have you ever heard of a B cup bra in Plus size? No because in that entire shop they had one 42 B.
Bra Strap fit: when you buy a bra the hook should be snug on the last hook because as it stretches out you go to the smaller hooks, no dents in shoulders.
Cost Bra: about $70. I know crazy right but it is not it makes feel and look better plus if I care for it it will last (NO dryer) Quality over Quantity ladies.
Bra Attractiveness: The thing is bras that really do what they are suppose to -which is hold the girls up, are not always cute. Bras need structure to fight gravity. But isn’t more important to have your breast look fantastic while dressed. The sexy bras little might look cute now in those little cups, but in 20 years you boobs might be at your bellybutton. Save the fancy sexy bra for the bedroom and get a work horse for everyday.
Location of your breast: they should be somewhere between your shoulder and elbow… no lower
Bring a tight shirt while trying on a bra: so you can see the difference of how much better you look with the right support
How often to do without a bra: wear a bra always unless in bed or bathing to help fight the dread dropping. If you have been in the YMCA after senior swim you know why .. GRAVITY and TIME not kind to women.
How often to get fitted for a bra: whenever you loose or gain weight or when you boobs hang low.. don’t wait as long as I did.
Frequent bra buyer programs: My Brazier shop did a follow up phone call to make sure I was pleased. They also have a buyers program buy 5 and get a discount on the 6th.
Have you had a bra fitting? When was your last bra fitting? Was it at sears when you were 12?
Come on it is time to get fitted for a Bra.
Do your boobs hang low..can you tie them in knot, Can you tie them in a bow….(me hum to myself)
Vick and my struggle with forgiveness
So I live in Philly where football and the Eagles are a religion. I lately have been having a hard time when I turn on the TV and see Phillys latest hero. Michael Vick. I was at my mothers, sitting with my dog on my lap and the discussion of religion came up. I was saying how the teenagers at my church where discussing current events, mainly the forgiveness of Vick and his atrocities toward dogs.
My mother said that Vick has to give speeches several times a month to talk about his journey and how in his circles that he was brought up in that did not seem like a bad thing.
My 9 year son listening in “Mommy I don’t know what you are talking about”.
I reluctantly spoke “Well this football player would make dogs fight each other to the death. Then he and others would drown some of the dogs in a pond. “
My sons response was “Mom he should be put on a most wanted list”
I said “Well he did serve time in jail 23 months, because animals are viewed as property and not life”.
“Mommy that is wrong, because they are life “ he says hugging Grundy our bulldog.
I sit here thinking about the physical act of killing another living thing. How it did not occur to this man that holding a struggling animal under water was not wrong. No matter how you were raised something fighting for its life in your hands does not feel wrong.
Loss of life any life is wrong by human hands.
And yet he is idolized in many Philadelphia eyes, so yes I struggle to forgive and feel he is reform from this man treated as a hero. It seems to me like remorse was the right thing to do to get the pay check.
How do I explain to my son how people are human and they make mistakes when this human was inhumane? Also how come people can over look his past an say Vick is a hero and savior for a team?
So I struggle with forgiveness.
In case you missed the story of the Vick Dogs and what is being done to rehabilitate them.
15 ways to be a Good Husband
In honor of Valentines Day here are 15 ways I love my husband.
Some simple things that make me love Mr Babypop more:
- He lets me have the Andes candy’s when we are at Olive Garden
- He lets me get in the shower first so I have hot water
- He goes out and starts the car to warm it up for me when I go to the post office
- He tells me very day how much he is attracted to me after 18 years
- He does not like to watch sports
- He gives me the comfy chair and remote a least once a night
- He gives me the good pillow
- He does the laundry he knows that undergarments do not go in the dyer
- He puts up with my over tweeting and never complains
- When I choose a paint color then he goes to the store get the paint and goes lighter because I always choose too dark
- He loves seafood bisque and understands when I need more than one bowl
- His eyes smile
- He knows I like an Italian Hogie with extra mayo
- He has turned the car around to head back to the house so I can get my sun glasses no questions asked.
- He is the most amazing man I know is makes me smile every day. I am glad to call him my best friend.
Give me one reason you love your partner for the little things?
GPS the other Women
This year for Christmas ask for a GPS. S o last night my husband and I went for a drive we used the GPS to get home.
the conversation:
The gps in the female voice ” Continue on route”
time lapses
My husband inquires ” Is the volume off?” referring to the GPS
Me” She doesn’t talk if you are heading straight”
him: “Really are you sure it is not off?”
Me “Yes I am sure, she does not always talk… why you like to hear her talk? Maybe they can make her so She talks to keep you company, that way when you drive long distance she would keep you awake babbling away.” ” I continue” It would be great for random chatter to keep you going.”
Him ” Yea that would be great for whom? men or women?” he thinks quickly..” I already have you for that honey, I don’t need her”
I smile in the dark of the car Good to know my husband will never cheat on my with the GPS..
So does the GPS spawn any interesting conversation in your house?
The loss of a pet is real
I got a call this week from my college room-mate G. She is single, no children. G had to put her young dog “Kashi” down due to heart failure. Her baby Kashi a border collie mix was adopted 3 years ago . When I spoke with G, she said I know I can ‘t image how people who lose children feel. She told me how sad she is. My heart broke for her.
I wept for G remembering the loss of my babies. Mona, Stirfry, and my beloved Hershey. Earlier December G and I had a discussion when an animal is sick, humans take heroic measures when it is just putting the animal through pain. I know this because of my choice to save Hershey leg after he was hit by a car. He went through a year of 4 surgery’s and still never used the leg, and only to have the screws back out over time. Hershey would have been happier without the limb and would have not suffered. During this discussion I told G if I had to do it all over again, I would take the leg because I did it for me and not for the best interest of Hershey. So when Hershey finial ready to pass, I could not let him suffer and I put him down, rather than suffer.
G told me she called because she knew I would understand. Which I do Kashi was her pack. People don’t always understand the bond someone has with animal especial when they do have children. But G bond is really and she is grieving. When Hershey passed I cried and he was an old dog. I still find myself looking for him and there is time I get sad. My advice to G was the advice someone gave me take the time grieve, take the months required to heal do not run out and get another dog because no dog can replace Kashi.
So I ask the next time someone you know loses a furry family member please be respectful and remember they are grieving.
Have you lost a furry friend?
Just all me Edna Mode
Just all me Edna Mode (incredible reference)
This is my secret Lair or not so secret. Who am I … Sherry from babypop, this is is where I will tell you who I am an and my life behind the superhero costumes business, my family and well fun stuff I find.
The name of the blog is just well quite frankly because I am …SuperExhausted!
There it is over my 1st post .. the pressure is off. Thank God