Pierced Ears Fashion or Abuse for little girls.
I was 7 and my sister was 8, when we got our ears pierced together. We want to be like the other girls in our class and have pierced earrings I remember it clearly, we wait as the marker was placed on our ears, wiped with alcohol and the quick firing of the gun. Like a quick bee sting, then we had pierced ears that we were required to take care of. Such a moment in my life. My daughter has been asking when she can get earings and I told her when she is 8 years old we will do it for her birthday. Tradition and she under understands the care that is required.
So a friend of mine and I walk the mall several times a week. This morning we were to exposed to a very interesting sight. As we walk by “Claire’s” a well know place to get your ears done, A young child about 4years old was in the window. The father was physically restraining this little girl, as her ears were being done. She was screaming her head off. We slowed our pace and watched as this child was restrained and fearful screams escaped as her ears were done with the onlookers of the mother and younger sister watched. We looked at each other and said that was just not right. The more seasoned ladys walking behind us stopped and abuse was mentioned.
Now I have held my son down for a shot at the Dr. office. He was 9 it took me and 2 nurses to hold him for the shot that he need for his health. The nurses tried to make me feel better.. when they said he is nothing “you should see when the 13 year old boys won’t get a shot . It takes 5 nurses to hold them down”. I still felt terrible and pleaded with him to get the shot, because it was for his health. it was a parenting moment I will never forget. I also informed my husband he was taking him for shots from now on..
Ear piercing is not for health.
How does a 4 year old child understand her Daddy holding her down?
We saw the little girl later trailing behind her parents with a lollipop.
Is is possible she got one ear done and then freaked out? Then the restraint came so she got both ears done.
What would you do? How do you feel about it if it was child?
When my daughter was born I was surprised how many people said I HAD to get her ears pierced, really?? Well she is two and I haven’t done it, nor will I. When she is older 9/10/11 or more and asks for it then I will take her. It will be her decision but no way will I hold her down, screaming, kicking and crying for earring!!!
I got my ears pierced when I was 10. It was my decision. I had every intention of waiting until my daughter was 9 or 10 before allowing her to get them pierced. She turned 5 last year and begged and begged us to let her. She was responsible enough to help me take care of them and so I allowed her to get them pierced. There was no holding down, now restraining. It was her choice, she wanted to do it. I can’t imagine forcing a child into it….
I had my girls ears done when they were very young. I was young at that time. Both had issues with them over time. Now with my granddaughter I want no parts of having her ears done anytime soon. She is in my care and it won’t happen on my watch. I guess I learned my lesson with my own girls, and age.