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Finding Time for Happiness

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Finding Time for Happiness:  Everyday I am crazy busy (notice the name of my blog? )  and don’t have enough hours to accomplish all that I would like to do.   I would love a minute to read those stack of books I have sitting in the coner of my bedroom, or finish the quilt I have based up.  I am not alone in the this feeling.  The Long summer days are a natural time for Americans to re-focus their time to do more of what they enjoy, but it can still be challenging to make any extra time. In fact, according to a new survey by Safeco Insurance, more than four in five respondents agree they need an extra hour in the day with 70 percent admitting they would use that extra time to do something for themselves.

New Study Shows Every Hour Counts for Time-Crunched Americans’ Quest for Happiness

Safeco Insurance® Launches #MY60 to Encourage Finding an Hour a Day to Do More
The survey results showed that people are working longer hours, but 45 percent are realizing less happiness in their extended workdays. Nearly half say that finding just sixty minutes more in their day to do something they enjoy would make them happy and relaxed. Topping the list of activities for a “do more hour” were personal hobbies (40%), having alone or personal time (29%) and trying something new (22%).

With over half of respondents admitting to feeling more inspired to find free time during summer, Safeco is launching the #MY60 campaign to encourage people to take back 60 minutes of their day over a 60-day period. Safeco is inviting consumers to visit www.safeco.com/MY60 to find tips and checklists on how to create and maximize a “do more hour” for themselves. The site will also feature expert advice from Jonathan Alpert, a Manhattan-based psychotherapist and author of the book “Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days.”

“Part of Safeco’s mission is to help both our customers and independent agents get more out of life from getting more involved in their communities to tackling a new challenge,” said Matthew Nickerson, President, Safeco Insurance. “We hope Safeco’s #MY60 campaign will empower people with the tools to help them find an hour or any extra time in their day to do what makes them happiest.”

The survey also demonstrated the tug-pull feeling Americans have on how much time they spend on things they have-to-do versus things they want-to-do, with respondents aspiring to a near 50/50 split. However, the study shows a different story as respondents report actually spending two-thirds of their time on have-to-do activities as opposed to only 33 percent focusing on want-to-do activities.

When it comes to managing time, 66 percent of those surveyed believe they are only somewhat successful or not successful at all with their time management. In fact, only one-third of respondents feel that they successfully manage their time and complete daily to-do lists.

There are also negative consequences to not having enough hours in the day to get through everything. Over half of respondents admitted to using a negative behavior such as overeating to cope with not accomplishing everything they need to do. These behaviors are likely having a negative impact on relationships. One-quarter say they withdraw from other people and 24 percent become angry with others to cope.

“The best way to avoid negative behaviors stemming from not having enough time to do it all is to change your thinking about what needs to be done,” notes Alpert. “Carving out an hour in the day of ‘me’ time is essential to personal happiness.”

Alpert offers several tips to help find an hour a day to do more including:

Change your thinking. “I’m so busy” and “I don’t have time for anything” are negative comments that are sure to keep you feeling overwhelmed. Think more along the lines of making good use of the time that you do have or having perspective that you can only do so much in one day and to accomplish what’s reasonable for that given day. Empower yourself to think “can” and “will” instead of “can’t” and “have to.”

Track how you spend your time. Do this for one week. Many people are entirely unaware of what they do hour to hour and where the day goes. The simple exercise of noting what you’re doing each hour can have a huge impact. Track your time and know where you’re spending it.

Determine which tasks and activities are vital and which are optional. Structure other tasks around those that are vital. Schedule your day by doing the important tasks first, using the first 15 minutes of your morning to organize your work area. This is when you are freshest and energetic. So often the less important tasks get in the way of other things that need to be done which can be distracting. It’s often easier to do the things that aren’t as important, but fear can lead to procrastination and ends up keeping us stagnant.

For additional tips and more information on the #MY60 Challenge, visit www.safeco.com/MY60.

About the Study
Safeco Insurance commissioned ORC International to conduct a quantitative methodology to measure attitudes towards time management and balancing leisure time with work and essential tasks. During April/May 2015, a 10-minute online survey was conducted among a nationally representative sample of approximately 2,000 adults aged 21 to 75 within ten major media markets (approximately 200 for each: Boston, NYC, Chicago, Seattle, Dallas, Charlotte, San Francisco, Columbus, Philadelphia, Phoenix).*”Total” reported is an unweighted average of these ten markets.

About Safeco Insurance
In business since 1923 and based in Boston, Mass., Safeco Insurance sells personal automobile, homeowners and specialty products through a network of more than 10,000 independent insurance agencies throughout the United States. Safeco is a Liberty Mutual Insurance company.

Boston-based Liberty Mutual Insurance is a diversified insurer and the third largest property and casualty insurer in the U.S. based on 2013 direct premiums written as reported by the National Association of Insurance Commissioners. Liberty Mutual Insurance also ranks 78th on the Fortune 100 list of largest U.S. corporations, based on 2014 revenue. For more information about Safeco Insurance, go to safeco.com.

The Redesigning of my Life #MSNKnowNow


So Msn asked me  In honor of the newly redesigned MSN, we want to hear about a time that you’ve re-imagined or redesigned an aspect of your life, blog, or career.   I thought over the past few years I have reinvented so much of my life.  7 years ago when I left my corporate life became a full time at home mom.  Then starting a new online business making Babypop superhero capes.  To  the last 4 years blogging to find my place in the world.   That leads me to what I have learned about myself over the last few years.

I learned through blogging on this blog Superexhausted.  I have so many amazing opportunities and experiences with Superexhausted.   From my trip to the Taste of the NFL Superbowl,  To learning about the wonderful city I live in, to experience great brands.  It also proved to me that I can write.  I always thought because of my lack of writing ablity or should I say spelling ablity, I would never be able to speak to people through words.  Which is amazing people have come, visited, and commented on my posts.

This past September I wrote a post about my husbands health condition. It was amazing how many people related and share the post.  While being an extremely hard post to write because of the personal nature, it also was very healing and cathartic for me.    I learned that I have things to add to the world and people experience through my words.

I learned through blogging how much I love talking pictures and creating beauty the camera.  People have now asked me to shoot conferences and events.  So  my blogging photography has become a lovely way to open more doors to me.   I now received visitors and comments on this blog because of my photography.   I love it and if I won the lottery I would take pictures all day.

This blog has also taught me to care for myself.  3 years ago, I was at my highest body weight. Thought support the community bloggers I started to loose.  I started caring more about how I looked and shed the mommy frump,  so could I looked decent at blogging events.  Years I am down 45 pounds and feel more in control of my health and life. It was my social media sisters and reader on the web who supported and cheered me on.  When I needed the extra push, allowing me freely to talk about my weight  issues.

Caring about what I eat, lead to me embracing my love to cook.  So I recently started writing for a large blog on creating food posts.  My kids have learned to love all types of food through my blog experimentation.

My kids have grown up on this blog,  it is the story of their childhood,  that I can show them when they get older.  What an interesting way to reflect on their lives.

It is amazing how blogging has changed my life opening my eyes to new opportunities and a possible new careers.

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Facing Fears being Vulnerable

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So I have  always lived by one rule.  Never Live Scared. Which gives me a lot of room to try and fail. Yup,  I am that friend that will do something once.  I have been known to get on a plane the same day I booked the ticket- scared alot.. .  Yes,  I have gotten up and sang Karaoke in front of a room of 300 strangers and peers- I shook the whole time.. and sounded like crap.  I went to a 3rd world country by myself alone, took cabs and navigate the county not speaking the language.  Yea that is me in the fountain..Thinking please don’t fall please don’t look too crazy.

When it comes to relationships.  I believe that people are inherently good. I trust easily and get hurt often.. I am that friend that is all I will be there and care for you.  Yea I get disappointed alot by people.  But yet I don’t learn and I trust the next person.. hoping for better, sometimes it makes me sad.. and vulnerable.

Last week, great inspiration for me and my favorite speaker  Brene Brown,  was on Katie Couric’s new talk show.  I first saw Brene at Blissdom in 2011 ,  She was amazing and her words really resonated with me.  I Brene Browns words,  paraphrasing.. “people who are vulnerable leaving themselves open for criticism but at least they try”..  and I will try to be more vulnerable. Read Brenes Brown’s book Daring Greatly  let her words be your guide for living life to the fullest. .. I try to Dare Greatly… or watch Brene Brown’s Ted Video If  you live scared you will miss amazing experiences.. like taking a walk in a fountain.

So this week I am doing another 1st, walking down a Runway as a plus size model at the Fashion Forward conference. Yea it is a little nerve racking… I have had my own fashion designs go down a runway but I never have been on it..  Lets hope I don’t trip or look too big.. if I do ..oh well at least I tried. Because I am enough.  Thanks Brene.

So what is your Runway.. How are you going to be more vulnerable this week, year, life?